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08/16/2006
Just some stuff...
I found some interesting articles today while I was online. They are from various medical journals. I am (obviously) thinking a lot about this stuff today...with my big therapy appointment being 4.5 hours from now.
Here are some excerpts:
Women's emotional reactions and adjustment to cesarean birth vary widely. Although some women recover fairly quickly and accept the surgical birth as a necessary step to a healthy baby and to becoming a mother, others experience various degrees of sadness, disappointment, anger, violation, loss of self-esteem, guilt, depression, and sometimes post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
It is normal for a mother to appreciate the fact that her birth by cesarean resulted in a healthy baby while still feeling sad, confused, or angry about the experience itself. Mothers who have an unexpected cesarean, have general anesthesia, or are separated from their infants are especially vulnerable. A mother’s satisfaction with her birth experience depends on whether or not she was included in the decisions made on her behalf, if she was treated kindly and with respect by her caregivers, if she received medical interventions she feels were unnecessary, and/or if she felt she was “in control” of her birth.
Friends, family, and even partners of mothers who have had an emotionally difficult cesarean often do not understand why mothers don’t just “move on,” or why they “obsess” about their birth experience. It is important that, whenever you are ready, you find the right time, a safe place, and a person you trust to resolve some of these feelings. It might be weeks, months, or years after your cesarean, or even during a subsequent pregnancy, before you will be able to talk about your birth. If you are planning to have another baby and plan to labor for a VBAC, you will feel better about that pregnancy and birth if you first process your feelings about the difficult cesarean you’ve already experienced. Find out how you might be able to avoid the reoccurrence of those events.
To help you understand and resolve some of your negative feelings:
• Know that you are not alone; many other mothers have felt the same way.
• Trust yourself to know that you are a good mother, even though you may have very confusing feelings about your cesarean-delivered baby.
• Talk to your partner about how you feel without placing blame on his or her role in your baby’s birth.
• Talk to a friend or family member you trust—one who is likely to validate your feelings.
• Write or draw your feelings in a journal.
• Write letters to the people who affected you negatively. You don’t have to mail them.
• Join a cesarean/VBAC support group, or become part of an on-line group of mothers who feel as you do. (See “Support Groups,” under “For More Information.”)
• Unresolved issues can sometimes lead to clinical depression. You might need to seek professional counseling.
Some more...
Emotional Scars of Cesareans: Personal accounts from women who have had a cesarean, as well as emerging research, suggest that despite a healthy baby and a timely physical recovery, some women experience cesarean birth as a traumatic event. An unanticipated cesarean is more likely to increase the risk for postpartum depression and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). As in other traumatic human experiences, the symptoms of birth-related PTSD may emerge weeks, months, or years after the event.{9-11} Women re-experience the birth and the emotions associated with it in dreams or thought intrusions. They avoid places or people that remind them of the event. Some mothers have difficulty relating to their infants, and some will avoid sexual contact that may result in pregnancy. They will also exhibit symptoms of hyperarousal, such as difficulty sleeping or concentrating, irritability, and an excessive startle response. Untreated post-traumatic stress often leads to clinical depression. {12}
Hmm....
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From what you have found, it seems as though you are not the only one with these problems, so with any luck the therapist will have some knowledge of the problem and be able to help. Something that wasn't mentioned, that I thought had a negative effect also was the short time you had to stay at home after the birth. I just felt that a minimum time for you to be home after our girl was born should have been 6 weeks. I think it just would have been better for you and her...call me crazy! God bless your session today! Isle of View! Mom
Posted by: Mom | 08/16/2006
Oh I agree with your mom. You had nowhere near enough time to process everything you'd been through both emotionally and physically.
And I can see that a lot of the things mentioned there apply to any traumatic birth, not just caesarian. Good timing Lumi - I've got my own therapy appointment this afternoon!
Love love.
Posted by: Panda | 08/17/2006
i wish i wish i wish it were so simple in india... here we have a rate of almost 75% c-secs in urban india... i just know two friends out of almost 20 who had natural births....
and therapy is almost impossible to come by in India.. ppl think ur nuts to bring it up over something as small as a c-sec... please make the most of ur sessions and see if you can share with us so that i can benefit in some small way...
really.. bless you.. hope it works out well... god knows i need it badly....
Posted by: the mad momma | 08/22/2006
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